Escaping Limbo: Why My Remote Work Sucks
When I made the decision to leave my job, I felt like I wouldn’t be a good PF blogger if I didn’t monetize my departure somehow. Just plain old quitting is for suckers! Financial Samurai espouses, “Negotiate your severance” and for $85 I’ll tell you how! I had multiple people tell me similar things, “you should ask for a remote work assignment, so and so just got one!” “You should ask for severance, you never know if you don’t ask…” Company policy is that I have too few years to be entitled to anything. No severance, no partial bonus next cycle for this year, no LTI payouts (long term incentive – the stocks), nothing. I’d already looked it up. If I went to negotiate a severance, what leverage did I have?
To be honest, I didn’t give a shit. I was already leaving over $150k of stock incentives on the table, we already have “enough” money, and personally, I didn’t want to be immediately tied to a computer when I left. However, to be a “good” PF blogger, I split Sam’s book with a colleague that was also wanting a change and we wanted to see if it could help. I started reading it and I couldn’t get past Chapter 4. I just didn’t give a shit. My family was moving, I wasn’t going to “not move” just to stick around trying to monetize my departure by making my company decide between firing me or continuing to pay an unproductive employee… That seemed shadier than just ghosting work, plus, that’s just not my style. I kept asking myself, what’s the point of acting poorly towards them just to get more money, when we already have enough money?
And then it happened… My boss came to me asking about working remotely for a month to “ease the transition.” I said, “Sure. Maybe for a month, but 2 at max.” When it was all said and done, I signed a contract for 3 months of remote work. A month in, it feels like the longest, most drawn out, tediously earned severance package ever. Here’s why I wish I hadn’t agreed to this dumb shit assignment…
Free Money
My main reason to take the offer was the fact that the work I was supposed to do would be easy. It seemed like a good idea and who turns down free money?! To be honest, it has been easy. How easy? I’ve finished all the work specified in my contract and it’s only been 4 weeks… And I’ve been dicking around half that time. It’s amazing how productive you can be when you have zero meetings, zero people popping into your office to distract you about something that isn’t even your problem or issue, and no stress of commuting to decompress from each morning. Plus with the Houston house not selling, the extra $$ would help with those extra costs and whatever else pops up like needing to replace the entire AC unit at our new house…
The downside is this. Now that all of that “real” work is done, I only have “busy work” left to do. This adds no value to the company, and is ultimately just killing time for me until Nov. 2nd… However, I like doing productive things and being productive and this is draining my soul little by little knowing I’m adding diddly-squat to anything productive. Free money always has a cost…
Lack of Purpose
Like I said, my situation is unique in that this is a terminal remote assignment. Meaning there is a defined end date to the assignment, after which I’ll also be leaving the company. In reality I know I shouldn’t be consulted for our Field Development Plan, the landing zones for our 2019 or 2020 development wells, or even Reserves questions because the geologists taking over my spot need to start, well, taking over my spot. All the transition was done before I left, and like I said, I’ve already fulfilled my obligations to the contract I’ve signed. So what the F is the point from me “working” here on out?!
I didn’t realize how depressing/annoying it was going to be not getting consulted on anything. In fairness, I shouldn’t be and that’s how it should go. But, I don’t get included on any emails related to anything I worked the last 3 years, and I haven’t even heard from my boss in 2 weeks now. I know, more than half are saying, this sounds like nirvana, if ONLY I could not hear from my boss for 2 weeks and get left off of emails… Yes, these are all positives, and it is nice but it does very little to make me feel like this is anything other than a money grab.
Is It A Money Grab?
So it’s a money grab, should I really care or be concerned? Not really, as I’ve fulfilled my part of the contract already, and maybe they should’ve made sure I had more work to do. As I mentioned previously, money isn’t free, because I’m stuck here in the house at least checking emails and whatnot for most of the day. Granted, I’ve been doing a lot of running mid-morning and will go for a run today after I hit publish on this post. Yesterday, I went and test rode mountain bikes for a few hours in the morning. I’m trying to be prepared for the free time that I’ll have soon to go ride the 26 miles of trails only 2 miles from my home. Even now, I have the freedom to do these things and more. I’ve been practicing banjo and working on the dobro during the days and why not? They’re sitting right by my desk and my practice material is literally right behind me. Grocery shopping mid-week? Hell yeah! What, am I gonna fight the crowds on the weekend like a full time working schlub? No way!
While it’s not all negative, screwing off most days just doesn’t fit into my work ethic or feel very fulfilling.
Escaping Limbo
When it boils down to it, there are a lot of positives with this extended paycheck scenario. Yes, I can use my first world privilege complaining about how it isn’t great, but let’s be honest. It is some of the easiest money I’ve made to date, so I can’t really complain.
The biggest problem is that I feel stuck in a limbo of being caught between two worlds; one is my old corporate life and the other is the new Lifestyle Change. With one foot planted firmly in the corporate world, I haven’t been able to fully embrace the new Lifestyle. Here’s my plan to change that.
First, I’ll adjust my Skype IM settings to “always be available” because why not? Second, I’ll tell my computer to never log me off regardless of activity. Third, I’ll begin embracing the new Lifestyle and amenities it offers.
If something comes up with work and needs to be taken care of, I can check email on my phone, I’m always within 15-20 minutes of home, and nothing, I repeat nothing I’m working on has a fuse that short. Plus, there are 2 other geologists backfilling my position, so between the 2 of those gravel monkeys, one of them can figure it out. It’s not rocket science people…
I’m letting go, breaking free, and starting my Lifestyle whether or not I’m still “working remotely”.
I have officially stopped caring. Life’s too short to be so wrapped up in work, especially when that work has moved on. They’ve moved on and I’ve moved on, so let’s stop pretending we’re still together, so to speak.
What do you think, am I being too hard on the remote work gig? Or am I just done and feel like I’m stuck with a girlfriend that won’t accept the breakup? I’d love to hear your feedback!
Mr. Lyn
August 29, 2018It really is unbelievable how much time we spend in corporate trainings and pointless meetings/calls. Now that I´m a contractor I get to skip all those and focus only in productive work.
It is also amazing how little productive work you can do before being slowed down but all those people that need to be in corporate trainings and pointless meetings. At the end of the day, I always need input from other people to move forward and I need to wait for it most of the time, which is really frustating even if technically I´m being paid to wait.
Mr SSC
August 29, 2018Yeah, I was super productive without being in the office. Even supervising my 5 and 7 yr old for the first week, I got more done than I had gotten done in a month prior to that. Funny how parenting kids is LESS distracting than a typical office environment.
Freedom 40 Plan
August 29, 2018I think you’re being a little hard on the remote work thing – but mostly just because you’ve made your decision to leave, and now every day still working for the man is a little soul crushing.
I had a similar experience when I quit in March, but then my employer came to me a couple weeks later asking if I would stay for another three and a half months. I agreed with the stipulation that I would be doing only the bare minimum, and with the knowledge that by doing so I’d secure a pretty substantial bonus.
It was a long three and a half months. I had a daily countdown calendar on my screen. But, now I’m free, I’ve got a little more cash to work with, and all is good.
Hang in there – you can already see the finish line!
Mr SSC
August 29, 2018Exactly,this remote setup sort of sucks but a full time remote gig? I found out that I could be very productive and deal with that very well, so that’s another positive of this whole assignment. However, as you pointed out, knowing this is terminal and there is an end and it coincides with me leaving the company… OMG, I’m so over it… I was over it 4 months ago when I turned down the promotion and started to transition out of my role. This jsut extended it another 3 months, so I’ll have 6 months of “leaving the company” by the time it’s said and done. It’s just getting to be SO long…
I was able to get my last bit of stock paid out near the end of the summer and now would have to extend this to March/April to get any more funds. I just can’t see that happening.
I gave away my countdown timer to a colleague, the same one I split that book with. 🙂
2 months left and I have sufficiently lowered my expectations for work done and work expected, so that should help too. The end is near…
Mrs. Picky Pincher
August 29, 2018Ahhh, I can totally see how you’re stuck in a weird situation. But hey, it’s not about the remote work itself, it sounds like it’s just the weird work limbo. I’ve worked remotely for two years and really love it. 🙂
Just power through these three months and you’ll be much better off for it! Sometimes we have to go through weird transitional times of life to get where we’re going.
Mr SSC
August 29, 2018Yeah, I edited the title to “Why My remote work sucks” lol. Like you said, yes mine is a unique situation because the end is nigh… I did realize that I can work very efficiently and well in a remote work setup, so yes, not all remote work is bad, just this cock-a-mamy setup I’m in currently. Again, that’s just due to the fact that I’ve been “done” with this job since about 4 months ago now when I turned down the promotion and told them I would be leaving the company in August. I’ve been on DGAF mode since then and this just extended that 3 months of DGAF to 6 months and OMG, that’s just too long to not GAF… Bwahahahha
Caren
August 29, 2018This post cracked me up. I love that you don’t hold back and use a little potty language to illustrate how frustrated you are. I’ve been where you are several times. It doesn’t feel good to be doing work you don’t care about, but I found a little trick that helps. Every day I write down how much $$ I earned doing practically nothing. Seeing the daily figure puts a direct value to your time. Also, have a hard deadline for when you will finish. Then you have a hard stop, you have something to look forward to.
Mr. SSC
August 30, 2018Thanks for the tip and glad to have made you laugh with the post. It’s written more in my typical voice and not my “more refined” writing voice, lol. Plus, the level of frustration sort of added to that as well. 🙂
I like knowing how much I’m making doing basically nothing, so I’ll get that figured out today and keep it around as a reminder.
I had a daily calendar from the Onion a few years back and one day the story headline was “Study shows that working at work increases productivity!” It cracked me up so I kept it pinned next to my desk for these types of days. Kind of like your trick, but in a different way.
Mrwow
August 29, 2018Just cash the checks… live your life and cash the checks…
As an old coworker put it, “working from home is great cause you get to play defense, not offense.”
Basically just let them know you’re alive… then cash the check.
Mr. SSC
August 30, 2018I like it. “Let them know you’re alive and then cash the check.” Great advice for any job! 🙂
I like being on defense and I could’ve been a little hard on remote work, but I realized it is 4 months since I “gave notice” that I was leaving the company and I knew about 2 months before that. So dragging out my end date and being in a DGAF mode for almost 6 months now definitely is affecting my perception of just wanting this to end.
I think a full time remote gig, I’d be super great at at, but this drawn out nightmare. I need to let them know I’m alive, and just cash the checks. 🙂
dap
August 29, 2018Super funny and very relevant to my situation, all the way down to following Sam’s advice; I don’t want to be selfish, right? The only difference is I’m still training my replacements, no end date in-sight, and still having to work at the office.
One small piece of advice that might help. I’m trying to spend more time on relationships with the rest of my coworkers. Discussing topics tangentially related to our work and coaching a bit.
At first blush I felt a bit guilty like I’m pulling others from their assignments, however, in Technology groups there is so little of this style management, it might actually help the morale of the broader team.
Mr. SSC
August 30, 2018I definitely spent my last 3 months in the office developing relationships with friends and exploring that more. I also did the same as you and spent WAY more time mentoring, coaching others, and helping in more ways than just being a company cheerleader.
It was a good way for me to want to stay relevant and engaged while still riding out the last 4 months in the office. Now that I’m down to 2 more months out of the office it is going fine, I just needed to adjust my level of expectation for what I should and shouldn’t be putting my energy towards.
Oldster
August 30, 2018Stop being hard on yourself. It almost sounds like you are masking guilt for being paid for virtually no work, with dissatisfaction with the gig. This was not your idea. You are doing what the company asked of you. Take the money, that they clearly thought the gig was worth, and go paint the garage, trim the trees, wash the dog, wax the car or write a book. You’ve got one in there, I can feel it.
Mr. SSC
September 1, 2018Hey, that’s not a bad take on it either. Thanks for the comment and support! I think you’re right that there is some guilt coming in with the dissatisfaction. I really appreciate that you’re reminding me it’s not my idea, because that’s refreshing. Granted, not selling our Houston house yet and finding out that our new house needs an AC replacement because the current one is perfectly functional just absurdly undersized, it really helps knowing I’m getting 2 more months of paychecks. 🙂
Yes, I plan on doing more for me, less feeling tethered to my desk/upstairs literally and go out of the upstairs, go out of the house and start to enjoy my new lifestyle change. Do you know how much shit I’ve been putting off that hasn’t gotten done yet? No, because I haven’t written about it, but there’s a lot around here and guess who’s making a list and starting to work on it this week? This guy. Thanks again for stopping by and the comment!
almost retired
September 12, 2018I know what you are experiencing. Similar story. I gave four months notice back in January. Company asked me to stay 12 months. We landed on nine months, end of September. It made sense as they needed to find a replacement and wanted me to help the new guy/gal on-board. Plan has worked and I’m just two weeks away from end of September. I have very little to do at the office, except a little coaching the new guy (he’s great) and reminding people to ‘take that problem’ to the new guy.
Some days I’m able to think: cash the check , I’m just doing exactly what Company asked. They don’t mind that I have very little to do right now…that was the plan. But other moments I can’t stand it. I’m not really free yet. I still feel very tied to coming into the office and doing something. It’s a weird combination of feeling responsibility to earn that check with something more productive and being bored out of my mind. I can’t yet not come in for at least part of the day, so my days are not yet free. Which means getting dressed and commuting. I should just say, hey, let’s cut this off two weeks early. Keep the check, I’ve got stuff I wanna do, you really don’t need me now. But it’s better for all if I finish what we agreed to.
Anyway, what a overall good problem to have I guess. Feeling kinda whiney ass to be lamenting about it. But I still don’t like the feeling. Although, right now I have to admit, I’m actually slowly sipping coffee and delaying my arrival at work!
Mr SSC
September 21, 2018an, I understand feeling kind of whiney and lamenting the fact I’m getting paid to do very little. Especially being in my new town and getting a new perspective with people just struggling to make ends meet and I’m complaining about getting an extra 3 months paycheck. It’s a good problem, but it still makes me anxious and feeling tied to the house most days.
I’ve gotten better about doing things that need to get done and worry less about being in front of the computer all day every day, but it still will feel nice and freeing when it comes to an end in early November.
Congrats on getting to the end of your agreement with your company! So close now!
Donna
September 17, 2018I agree with Oldster. Your company signed a contract to pay you X dollars over the course of 3 months for Y work. You have already done the work and are now just waiting for the money, which is coming in installments. I think of you as a salaried employee rather than an hourly employee.
As far as being in limbo, yes, that’s annoying because waiting is soooooo hard!
Mr SSC
September 21, 2018Definitely a salaried employee and that helps with being less tied to a clock or computer. I’ve also been practicing feeling less guilt for not sitting in front of the computer. I went on a work trip this week and man talk about reiterating the fact that I’m just a dead man walking as far as they’re concerned. It’s released me of even more “guilt” about not being here “working” all 9 hrs of the day. More to come about that in a separate post. 🙂
Thanks for the comment and support!